It is very rare that both spouses are on the same page when it comes to divorce. In this case, you may experience difficulty getting your spouse to take the proper actions to ensure a swift, stress-free process.
Regardless of their opinion about the proceedings, the divorce must progress if it is in your best interest. Psychology Today explains what to do if your spouse refuses a divorce.
Explain your decision clearly and concisely
Even if there is trouble in a marriage, learning your spouse wants a divorce is jarring. This emotional upheaval can cause your spouse to fail to accept the seriousness of the situation, or believe that you are not genuine in your request. Consider how you will break the news and plan what you will say, so you can do so in a clear manner. Try to keep your words short and to the point, without adding too much unnecessary detail.
Try to remain even-keeled and emotionally-restrained
It is normal for tempers to flare when discussing divorce. The best thing you can do is to remain as cool-headed as possible. Even if your spouse attempts to draw you into a fight, try to avoid conflict whenever you can. Arguing will only make the process more stressful for both of you.
Prepare yourself for a tough conversation
It is likely your spouse will have lots of questions regarding your decision. Answer them to the best of your ability and prepare yourself for a difficult conversation about the demise of your marriage. It is in your best interest to remain honest and forthcoming, so there is no confusion about your intentions.
Keep in mind that even people who are reluctant about divorce end up benefiting from it. While you may feel guilty about hurting your former spouse or betraying their trust, it is best to be honest, transparent, and upfront about your feelings.