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Why should you wait to date until after your divorce?

Maybe you feel that your marriage ended long before you started the divorce process. You met a new romantic interest recently, and you want to pursue it. Is now the right time to date?

Divorce Magazine offers reasons to wait to date until after you divorce. Understand how to protect yourself and your divorce while preparing for the next chapter of your life.

The finances

Think back to when you first started dating your soon-to-be-ex. Remember the cost of dinners, movie tickets, gas and more. If your current partner learns of your new relationship, she or he may get the impression that you may spend alimony or child support money on your new love interest, which may kick up conflict. Even if your soon-to-be-ex does not find out about your new relationship, think about how much the price of dating may take away from covering legal fees and providing for your new life as an unmarried person living on a single income.

The conflict

Emotions often run high during divorce, even amicable splits. By dating before the ink dries on your divorce papers, it may drive a wedge between you and your spouse. Your ex may wonder when your new relationship started and if it triggered your divorce. The potential conflict may cause your split to drag on, resulting in higher legal fees.

The limited settlement options

Spouses who divorce amicably may enjoy a greater range of divorce settlement options. Your soon-to-be-ex may dismiss certain settlement options upon learning about your romantic interest, which may set you back in ways that you cannot fathom in your post-divorce life.

Should you hold off on dating for now? Think of what you risk losing in your divorce.