Co-parenting has many advantages. Generally, children thrive when both parents take an active hand in raising them, even if those parents do not cohabitate. However, one of the biggest challenges with co-parenting is moving the children between two separate residences.
Moving children between two different addresses can cause many difficulties. This is why more and more divorced families are considering nesting as an option. Nesting, as per Psychology Today, is when the children stay in the same house and the adults move in and out based upon the parenting schedule.
How can this help?
Nesting is a very good option if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are just beginning to separate and make plans for the future. If you are not sure where you will be living after the separation, keeping the current family home can help provide stability for your children. This will allow you to separate from your ex and make comprehensive plans before moving the children.
Additionally, if you live in a very expensive area, it is possible that neither you nor your ex will be able to financially maintain households in the same neighborhood as single entities. Keeping the family home may be the only way to ensure that your children stay in their current school district with the same friends.
How long does this last?
In the majority of situations, nesting is temporary. Usually, one or both adults will want to set up a completely separate living arrangement at some point. However, nesting can be a good way to transition into post-divorce life. In some cases, families do keep up a nesting arrangement for many years if they can maintain it.